Sometimes it's hard to know where to begin when it comes to self-care. Truthfully, when I began my journey to self-love, I didn't get what it meant. When I heard questions like: "Do you love yourself?" or "How do you show love or care for yourself?", I found the whole idea hokey and too idealistic. In fact, it turned me off so much, I walked away from the entire concept of self-love for several years. But when some scary and dramatic things began happening with my health, I decided to give it another chance. I began experiencing severe dizziness, vertigo, paresthesia, heart palpitations, and panic attacks. I couldn't pin-point an exact cause, and because the episodes happened randomly, I couldn't predict when they would occur. I assumed much of what I was experiencing was caused by the stress I was under, but nothing I did seemed to make the symptoms completely stop. Around the same time, my mother was diagnosed with bladder cancer. Her illness, combined with my own symptoms led me back to the concept of self-care.
To me, self-care and self-love are interchangeable concepts, They both center around the prioritization of healing and developing yourself—not from an egocentric perspective, but from the belief that if you are not living your life from a whole and healthy place, you cannot possibly give your best to the world. Self-care and self-love help you be a better person. And a better, healthier you, leads to a better world.
The American healthcare system is based on a "standards of care" paradigm, which practitioners are immersed in the minute they begin medical school. Accordingly, Western doctors are very much bought in to the idea of prescriptions and surgery as the best methods for treatment. I think it's partially because of the financial kickbacks and perks they receive from pharmaceutical companies and higher education institutions. However, in their defense, they also conform to the "standards of care" concept because it's what they are taught, and most doctors and health practitioners don't have the luxury of extra time to educate themselves on alternative medicine. This is where becoming your own advocate is key.
When my mother became sick, I decided to read as much as I could about alternative medicine. The cut and kill approach to cancer, in my opinion, was more harmful than good, and I wanted my mother around for a long time. One of the books I discovered along the way was called Radical Remission: Surviving Cancer Against All Odds, by Kelly A. Turner, Ph.D. In the book she explains nine factors that contributed to the "spontaneous healing" of hundreds of cancer survivors. The factor that struck me the most was the one that focused on releasing suppressed emotions. I knew I had a lot of pent-up resentment and anger lurking beneath the surface. Perhaps they were part of the reason for my feelings of anxiety and panic. Perhaps suppressed emotions helped cause my mother's cancer. Intrigued by the possibility, I began to delve into working on those areas to see if I could alleviate my symptoms. Some of the exercises I completed myself are included in the Glory Jar Serenity Kit Reference Guide. Some of them really helped me—particularly the Prayer Box and Resentment Exercise.
An abbreviated version of the Reference Guide is available for FREE as a PDF. However, the complete 64-page mini guidebook is only available as part of the Glory Jar Serenity Kits.
Download the Reference Guide today. Perhaps some of the activities it contains will help you too. If nothing else, it might inspire your own journey to self-care.
Glory B's unifies all of what I love most—the earth and its natural elements like stone and wood; the creative arts, whether through the written word, or photography, or paint; and helping others to make the world a better place.